A goodbye to 2015

This year has just flown by, and so much has happened that I haven’t had a chance to reflect on much until now. 

I’m going to come right out and say it: this was a good year for me. I started off 2015 distancing myself from a few people in my group of friends who had treated me pretty badly in the past, and it was such a phenomenal relief that I felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders. I’ve always felt awkward cutting toxic people out of my life when there are mutual friends involved, because I just don’t want to seem like I’m making folk choose sides. This year I learned that thankfully, the good friends I have are adult enough to make their own decisions, and I am so much happier for it.

This was the year I learned to use Twitter as social media, rather than just somewhere I unleashed 140 characters of my internal monologue into the ether. Did you know, up until around April, I followed maybe 200 people (and Jesus wept for the poor souls who followed me) but almost never interacted with any of them? Good lord! As an aside, I also learned to use snapchat, and so this was the year I took “just the right amount” of boob selfies. Unfortunately the fancy would usually take me when I was having a drink with friends, and I can’t even count the number of times my poor flatmate shouted “stop sexting when you’re hanging out with me!” Whoops.

2015 was the year I realised that *cue shocked look* having awesome female friends is an amazing thing. I’m actually a little embarrassed to admit that earlier this year, I was hanging out with a friend and I said the words “I don’t really have girlfriends, because, you know, drama”. I am SO glad they called me out on that. I have zero interest in some of the alpha male bullshit that’s become evident in some of the dudes I used to hang out with, and I wish I’d seen earlier that by distancing myself from “those other girls” I was perpetuating harmful stereotypes. Sure, I had male friends who used to tell me how great it was I didn’t act like “other girls”, but by this they were implying that acting “like a girl” was somehow shameful. FUCK OFF. I can still get dressed and have my makeup done in under 7 minutes, I will still kick anyone’s butt at Soul Calibur, and i would rather watch Japanese gore-ror than a rom-com. This doesn’t make me any less of a girl, or any less proud of my own gender thankyouverymuch.

This year I embraced feminism, and it was fabulous!

I went to my first rally in years, a #FreeTheNipple march on the Royal Mile in Edinburgh. I worked on my tan. I got my tap aff and my tits oot. I ran into some old friends and made some new ones, and it was a beautiful thing.

I finally figured out what Twitter was for, and found an awesome blogging community of some of the most amazing women. I was such a wee noob, and these lovelies whose tweets I’d been quietly reading (but was too nervous to comment at first) accepted me like it was no big deal. Accepted me like I actually knew what I was talking about, which tbh half the time even I don’t know! It’s honestly because of bloggers like Tara, Suzy, Beth-Eve & Katherine that I have the guts to write, especially some of the super-personal stuff I’ve written for Zusterschap. Did I mention I actually got to actually write contributions (1,2) and pieces (3,4) for blogs I admire to the moon and back? *fans self*

I’m no stranger to, er, meeting strangers off the internet. I met the incomparable Emileigh Clare years ago when I was looking for a beta for a fanfic I was writing, and we hung out in Paris whilst we were both living there. I also joined “Join Me” many moons ago, and took part in organised Random Acts of Kindness (RAoKs). Some of my favourite people are also joinees and this year I discovered quite a few of them just so happen to have awesome blogs (Emily, Siobhan, Claire). Back in August, I randomly met up with a fellow Edinburgh blogger, Emily at FranklyMsShankly, and went through to Glasgow to see FFS. Emily is one of the nicest people you could ever hope to meet, and she’s introduced me to the Edinburgh blogging community. In 3 words or less “there was gin”.

A side effect of all this is now I have an incurable craving to meet all these fabulous people I’ve been chatting to for months, and I just wish we all lived closer to each other. Or that the UK could sort some sort of high speed rail system. Nothing too fancy, but I wouldn’t mind something like the TGV or Eurorail running from Scotland please.

Right, it’s time for me to start getting the flat ready for people coming round. I hope you all have a fabulous Hogmanay and I shall see you on the other side! Xxx


  1. You are an absolute hoot my dear! Brilliant post- I love it and I’m so glad you tweet because otherwise we wouldn’t have met through the Olive Fox Book Club! I’ll carry on reading all of your posts and tweets- keep on doing what you’re doing lovely lady. Here’s to girl friendships, Social media and feminism in 2016! Love Lexie XX (@heytherelexie)

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      Aw thank you! It was something that I realised by the end of last year, that if it hadn’t been for Twitter, I might never have met some of the loveliest people – yourself included missy! I’m still a total noob, and it might still take me almost 2 weeks to reply to a comment, but here’s to social media & feminism in 2016 indeed! xxx

  2. I think you’d get along with my sister. Your ‘I’m not super girly’ paragraph made me think of her and one of her (female) friends. She mostly hangs out with guys, actually, though she’s never said anything disparaging about women in general, either because she doesn’t think it or because she knows I’d eviscerate her. Or some combination of the above. But yeah, Japanese gore-ror. I don’t get it. My sister and her friend (who has amazing hair and laughed when I said I wanted to shoot her but yo I meant it) asked for movie recs this summer and I was like, um, I have a couple of thrillers…? Not gory enough obvs.

    Anyway. Yay feminism! I’m still not sure I could #freethenipple, I’m so weird about (my own) public nudity. Something to work on.

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      For the first time in my life, I have some utterly awesome female friends (and yep, even though I’ve not “met”most of you folks in person, I’m still counting it!).

      I was sooo nervous when I first got to #freethenipple tbh, as I’ve always been a bit weird about my own public nudity as well. I’m getting better at it though!

      My cat just walked over the keyboard as I was typing, so I reckon that means she likes you ;-P xxx

  3. You are SO lovely. I’m so glad to have “met” you this year. Here’s to another fabulous, feminist year doll! xo

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      Aw! *blushes*

      You are so awesome, and both your blogs are actually part of the reason I have the guts to write at all. Becoming a Zuster was a major highlight of 2015! xxx

  4. I just stumbled upon your blog and I absolutely adore it. Will be following avidly from now on. Cheers!!

  5. I love this so much! I went through a very similar “feminist wake up” year a few years back. I also used to be one of those girls who thought I was cool because I played video games- because that’s what so many other people seemed to think. Now I have “I’m exactly like other girls” in almost all of my social media bios, because I’m so tired of people implying that there is a right and wrong way to be a girl. Fuck off, yo. I can wear makeup and kick your ass at Splatoon all at the same time.

    I also totally know the “why do you all live so far away” feeling. I’m in the US and as it turns out, not a ton of bloggers over here, and even the ones I do know live super far away. This country is just too big! And there are never any meetups over here 🙁

    Happy New Year!

    Katie @ http://www.katsyxo.com <3

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      I LOVE that! I used to be exactly the same, thought “you’re not like other girls” was a compliment rather than a disparaging remark towards my whole gender! When folk think there is a “right” way to be a girl, I’m glad I’ve realised that’s THEIR issue and not mine!

      I’ve had my share of “you’re a girl who plays video games? So you must just have a wii fit then”. Fuck off. Sit back and let me kick your ass on any of the many Mortal Kombats ;-P xxx

  6. Yaas you go girl! 2015 was already a great year for me, loving it! I wish I had discovered twitter last year lol, oh well I have to make up for it now!
    Tegan xx – Permanent Procrastination

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      I can’t believe I only discovered Twitter midway through 2015! Well, I was “on” it, but I totally wasn’t using it right as I never spoke to a single person #facepalm.

      I’m totally making up for it with a vengeance now! Watch out world… *evil cackle* xxx

  7. Happy New Year! It sounds like 2015 was a great year for you. I feel you about the trains, I’m pretty sure that if there was a good train network, I’d be in Scotland all the time. It’s so beautiful and I want to go back so badly. My cousin goes to university in Sterling and he catches the train from Edinburgh and it takes him about 6 hours to get back to the Midlands.

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      I discovered how far away Scotland was when I tried to get to Peterborough in december! I felt like I’d never see the outside of that train carriage again ;-P.

      You should definitely come up to visit, I would feed you SO well. Probably wouldn’t let you leave, but that’s a whole other story…xxx

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